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Ep. 220: Looksmaxxing, Successful Wives Divorcing, & How Not To Wreck Your Family

JR & Molly — Fri, 19 Jun 2026 11:03:13 GMT

Join us at our digital table where a married couple of 17 years have an unscripted conversation around life, family, culture and faith. This week, J.R. learns about a new viral trend called looksmaxing and Molly discusses its relevance to transgender ideology and beats deadhorse 3: what it means to be human. Then Molly brings up a trend of divorce among high-profile social media wives and what might be driving it but more importantly what women (and men!) can do to keep from wrecking their families with the wife has the bigger “clout” (kinda like us, lol). Join us for another episode of Too Busy to Flush!

PS: we’re off for the next month while J.R. is out working.

Show Notes

Intro: Our rabbit loses his tail, loud chickens, making the kids upset.

8:27: The hardest parts about J.R. being gone, Molly bags up and tosses a bunch of Faith’s clothes.

12:18 JR’s clock and evening phone habits, our dog takes my place on the bed when I’m gone.

15:50: Looksmaxxing: an overreaction to trans-ideologies?

23:33: Humanity is like a drunk person on a horse- Insights from Carl Trueman and Friedrich Nietzsche.

33:13: How to inoculate our children against unhealthy trends.

35:44: Molly’s deadhorse 3: Objectification and what it means to be human.

38:05: Baking soda biohack.

39:54: Social influence pushing women to get divorced: men can’t handle successful wives or something else?

47:40: What women are specifically designed to do and feel satisfaction and joy. The real goal as a husband and father and not letting careers take precedence over family.

52:43: Critical ages to be at home with your kids.

55:41: GK Chesterton (https://www.online-literature.com/chesterton/wrong-with-the-world/18/), drudgery, the problem with men and women and what’s wrong with the world.

57:56: Molly’s message to women to be successful but not wreck your family.

59:50: Show Close

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Ep. 219: Drawing Lines, Family Vision Statements, & Low Key, Long Term Faithfulness

JR & Molly — Fri, 12 Jun 2026 11:02:41 GMT

J.R.’s back from a week away and we dive right into music, worship and emotional manipulation which naturally leads us into a conversation about setting family boundaries around entertainment and summer camps for our kids. We close with Molly’s only planned discussion on her reflection around the disciple Andrew and his low key, long term faithfulness. Join us around our digital table!

Intro: Music mixing, emotional manipulation of music, worship music, secular music, composition and considerations.

13:50: We’ve changed over 6 years of podcasting and Angel Studios’ David movie shows a bit of this.

19:00: Peeing into a watering can.

19:58: Back to David…

21:52: Sending kids to youth group at a different church and in-breeding.

25:52: Christian liberty and soft and hard lines.

34:22: Drawing lines based on a family vision statement.

39:03: Kids going to camps and multiple rededications.

43:53: Our family vision statement.

47:35: Molly discovers something legendary at church.

53:51: The only thing Molly actually planned on saying this episode: Insights into the disciple Andrew.

56:19: Examples from Ray Boltz.

1:01:17: Low key, long term faithfulness.

1:05:30: Show Close

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Ep. 218: First Wave Feminism, Limitations Are Good, & Other Truths

JR & Molly — Fri, 29 May 2026 11:02:17 GMT

We’re off next week so here’s an extra long one for you where are cabin weekend holiday turns into a conversation about humility vs. skepticism when it comes to history, a primer on Feminism and the value of carrying each other’s burdens into some thoughts on human limitations by design as prompted by a Eugene Peterson devotional. We close with some insights on parenting and praises of our kids’ accomplishments. We hope you enjoy this week’s conversation around our digital table!

Show Notes

Intro: Sickness over the holiday weekend, I stink at archery (hunting).

6:45: Brocasts, Ancient Nashville, conspiracy theories and parental moderating.

11:25: Humility vs. skepticism when it comes to what we understand about history.

14:52: The waves of feminism. A new take on first wave feminism. Rachel Wilson and Joe Rogan and women voting.

19:00: Men and women: Carrying each other’s burdens, time with kids at bedtime.

25:16: Mary Queen of Scots and religious persecution.

33:06: Good, true, and beautiful, Theo of Golden, JR has deja vú.

38:38: JR asks about visiting people in June/July. Molly says “no” to bringing kids down.

41:57 Eugene Peterson and accepting the terms of creation, The Desecration of Man.

47:20: A story about a neighbor and having a moral basis for outrage at a school shooting.

54:45 Part of being human is recognizing our limits, obligations, and…something else 😝, and the connection to Natural Law, our limitations are a feature, not a bug and it is good.

1:01:44: It’s a progression of growth and parenting as such younger sets the tone for later.

1:08:00: Dropping the ball with the youngest kids.

1:10:05: Titus’s performance and dedication as a Judo kata partner, raising your children in the way the should go, not the way they will go.

1:18:06: Show Close

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Hobby Farms, Furries, & To Be Human

JR & Molly — Fri, 22 May 2026 11:07:45 GMT

This week we give you recap on our “hobby farm” updates with new gardens and chicken coops, some chicken adventures and other tales before diving into the question of whether or not we should start taking Furries seriously because of what the culture indication it’s giving us. What does it mean to be human? This and free stickers this week around our digital table!

Show Notes

Intro: coffee for fun, end of school, small talk,

6:00: Garden, chicken coop and huge new builds, sprinkler systems killed it.

18:53: Do we need to take Furries seriously? Virtual reality, the loneliness epidemic, and lack of interpersonal skills.

24:45: A chicken rabbit trail.

31:04: It is much easier to turn in a relationship to an animal vs. another human. What does it mean to be human? Vice Regents of the created order.

37:35: Once you unmoor humanity from who is God, there’s no stopping where it goes.

38:54: The book of Daniel and the more prideful we are, the more susceptible to idols and the more disconnected from our humanity we are.

48:22: Molly’s hot take: Climbing Mt. Everest is dumb.

57:40: Show Close

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Ep. 216: Ben Sasse, The Desecration of Man, & The Value of Church Tradition

JR & Molly — Fri, 15 May 2026 11:14:49 GMT

It’s been a minute. Longer than planned which J.R. explains. Anyway, we pick right back up where we left off about our injured house chicken and life and culture as a Christian family. We discuss church tradition, identifying heresy, edifying listens from Ben Sasse and Carl Trueman and the differences our kids have when it comes to academics.

Show Notes

Intro: Life updates: touring, gardens, chickens, JR’s bald again, update on injured house chicken.

13:35: Ben Sasse’s podcast, Not Dead Yet

20:54: AI and degradation of humanity, The Way of Medicine, and conversations around difficult conversations.

24:20: Observations on difficult conversations with those of other generations.

28:00: Everyone has to wrestle with what it means to be human.

33:01: The Desecration of Man and What We Can’t Not Talk About

36:50: The spiritual side of desecration and abortion as a sacrament.

39:36: Consecration, liturgies and church practices

44:26: Things in our lives that shape our worship, cathedrals of consumerism and You Are What You Worship.

47:20: Truman on the attraction of tradition and orthodoxy

49:37: Holy Spirit leading people in heresy. “That’s modalism Patrick!”

52:37: LISTENER REQUEST!

55:56: The Abolition of Man and other edifying historical documents to understand the historical roots of the Christian faith.

59:01: Musings about the value of university and higher education and one of our kids is a natural academic.

1:06:17: IQ vs. EQ

1:03:55: Show Close

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Ep. 215: God Calling Kids and Living an Apologetics Lifestyle

Outrunn3r — Fri, 27 Mar 2026 11:03:46 GMT

J.R.’s of the road so a new episode is here! We reflect on moments where our kids show signs of a spiritual life and discuss the importance of kids learning apologetics. We even have a Lemon Pie recipe for you! Obviously we talk about all the life things as a husband and wife do when living on 2.5 acres with animals and things. Please join us around our digital table!

Show Notes

Intro: Spirit week, Guinness chocolate sourdough bread, making Turkish Delight was not fun and Lemon Angel Pie.

14:24: New garden plans, a new chicken coop, new chicks, and another injured chicken.

23:53: A definition of faith: longing for a better city, and when your kids do things of the Lord unbidden. Abiding City - YouTube Adorning the Dark

30:43: New World Watch feature and the importance of kids learning Apologetics.

35:54: Wes Huff in Diary of a CEO. Keller’s cultural moment is over.

41:38: Living an apologetic lifestyle and consistency with kids.

48:10: The fear of losing your sense of confidence in knowledge and truth.

52:40: Molly’s habit of Jane Austen night: Mansfield Park, J.R.’s review of latest Brandon Sanderson series he’s reading, book adaptations, and the problem of building out old stories.

1:01:33: Show Close

Ep. 214: Concerts, Jane Austen, & Olympic Moments

Outrunn3r — Fri, 27 Feb 2026 12:09:52 GMT

This week’s show is more or less Molly’s hyper-caffeinated comments on culture. She does let J.R. kick off the show with a recap of his first rodeo before launching into the glories of Jane Austen, highlight Olympic moments and what might become her new segment, “Molly’s Etymology of the Week.” Please join us around our digital table for another riveting episode of Too Busy to Flush.

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Show Notes

Intro: Jesus-y sayings, studies in Revelation, Brian’s sermon series in Revelation.

12:15: Recap from JR’s first arena mix in San Antonio with Terri Clark.

20:00: Molly recaps her substitute teaching on Monday and all the first graders fall apart about death.

22:30: Molly finishes Sense and Sensibility and loves how great Jane Austen writes.

29:53: Olympics, paedo-president’s day rant.

33:22: Hormonal birth control and its correlation to anxiety disorders.

34:56: Johnny Gaudreau’s kids and Olympic moments.

38:00: Molly’s amusement with Sam “Moose” Morse and terrible ski racing culture.

43:52: Olympian Caesar Salad rater.

44:40: Molly’s etomologies of the week: tempura and semitic languages

48:43: Lack of sleep and picking up kid woes.

53:02: Show Close

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Ep. 213: The Collapse of Civilization: AI, Human Laziness or Door Dash?

Outrunn3r — Fri, 20 Feb 2026 12:03:05 GMT

We really run the gamut today kicking off with some thoughts around Lent, and cultural acceptance of displays of religiosity, the average person’s Door Dash budget and it’s affect on society, a followup on AI with Janie B. Cheney, an amazing deli-style meat recipe capping up with candid marital advice! We’d love to have you join us around our digital table!

Show Notes

Intro: Ash Wednesday, Lent, and Mardi Gras.

17:04: An update on AI since last week and Cheney’s commentary.

21:05: AI crushes a medical diagnosis.

26:47: The average person’s Door Dash budget and the short line between Door Dash and collapse of civilization.

32:46: Humanity wants the bare minimum, and adapting to new circumstances.

36:57: We went skiing and had forced disconnect time.

41:10: Food inflation and a recipe to turn any red meat into deli-style lunch meat.

48:20: FB Marketplace comedy

52:50: A reflection on Sandra McCracken’s Grace Upon Grace.

59:12: You are either moving towards or away from your spouse, pressure points in marriage like tidiness and forgetting to schedule reminders, and throwing this away without telling them.

1:08:59: Show Close

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Epstein, AI, & Living A Quiet Life

JR & Molly — Fri, 13 Feb 2026 12:02:57 GMT

We’re back for a bit of a longer one than normal as we respond or react to the most recent Epstein file dump. That leads us into a a discussion around our current culture and it’s overlap with AI development and potential uses and pitfalls. J.R.’s actually been playing with it and Molly wonders if it can be demonically influenced. We’d love to have you join us around our digital table!

Ep. 211: Ranking Qualities of a Good Life Partner...er, Spouse.

Outrunn3r — Fri, 06 Feb 2026 12:00:40 GMT

We’re back after J.R. got sick for the first time in forever. Molly found an interesting article during some of her Canavox prep so she uses it to ask J.R.’s opinion of the author’s 11 top qualities of a good life partner. You’ll enjoy this marriage discussion.

Ep. 210: AWFUL, Mental Disconnects, & Functioning in Reality

JR & Molly — Fri, 23 Jan 2026 12:01:15 GMT

We’re back from a little time away in the tropics but flew through Minneapolis on our way to and from. While we don’t have any firsthand experience with anything, it did prompt more than a few thoughts about our mandate to align with the world as God designed. We also talk a fair bit about sourdough again because it’s awesome and update you on some highlights from our trip.

Ep. 209: Christmas Reads, Deconstruction, & Certainty That Leads Others Astray

JR & Molly — Fri, 09 Jan 2026 12:03:12 GMT

Hey friends! Sorry for the delay, life is changing for us but we’ll still be bring you episodes even if not as frequently as they once were. That said, we catch you up on what we’ve been reading, playing and thinking about including Molly’s fall into a Rachel Held Evans legacy hole and contemplations around JK Rowlings Witch Trials, Certainty that leads others astray and how deconstruction is just bad. Thanks for joining us and we’ve love to hear from you! Links in the show notes.

TB2F Christmas Gift Recommendations

JR & Molly — Thu, 11 Dec 2025 13:30:43 GMT

It’s that time. Some of us (myself included) have been pretty good about getting ahead of the curve. That said, I know we’re always look for ideas. So here’s a list for you! (as compiled by Molly). ~ J.R.

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Big gifts

Carcassonne: https://amzn.to/49Hv3es
Carcassonne full game: https://amzn.to/47PkB1M
Ezy Roller scooter (little kids): https://amzn.to/3WLFh63
EzyRoller (up to 200 lbs): https://amzn.to/4nR5pHH
Pickleball net/set:

Books for each kid

For Faith:

Amelia Bedelia: https://amzn.to/4pnyc83

For Titus:

Calvin & Hobbes Complete Collection: https://amzn.to/4p3Cotl

For Lili:

Jane Austen collection: https://amzn.to/4hW3BMj

For Elese:

The Dreamkeeper Saga: https://amzn.to/4nN3fIU
Woof: https://amzn.to/47Pneka
(First in a series that Lili loved; the other two seem to be out of print because they are crazy expensive)

For older kids and families:

Vanderbeeker series: https://amzn.to/3LyBd6C
Penderwick series: https://amzn.to/4p3Cotl

Stocking Stuffers

Bluey Spot It: https://amzn.to/4hW3BMj
Silicon fidget toy: https://amzn.to/3XmkBl7
Penguin nightlight: https://amzn.to/47zR9hJ
Harry Potter gummies: https://amzn.to/4qRvFo1
My girls’ favorite hair brushes: https://amzn.to/43qwxpv

Favorite games

Classic Clue: https://amzn.to/4oDWfiU
Harry Potter Clue: https://amzn.to/47Lsup1
Harry Potter Guess Who: https://amzn.to/43K7BcX
Lord of the Rings adventure: https://amzn.to/4oDWfiU
(This is a fun cooperative game - vs being a lame cooperative game)
Tops Trumps: Hogwarts: https://amzn.to/4oVqGkc
Tops Trumps: Star Wars https://amzn.to/4hUbKAO
Tops Trumps LOTR quiz game: https://amzn.to/4878779
(Our kids love the Tops Trumps games; we probably have 4-5 each of the Harry Potter and Star Wars ones. There don’t seem to be any LOTR ones, but since this was the year of LOTR, I’m going to get them this quiz game)

Fabulous but little-known early elementary books:

A Giraffe Goes to Paris (historical): https://amzn.to/4qTTfk2
Clara: the (Mostly True Story) of a Rhino: https://amzn.to/3LUDusT
Because Barbara: https://amzn.to/47zSdlJ
Miss Rumphius: https://amzn.to/4p3EucH

Ep. 208: When Transgenderism Faces Your Kids & Take Heed Lest You Stumble

JR & Molly — Fri, 05 Dec 2025 12:03:58 GMT

We’re back from the Thanksgiving break and discuss more than a few things but we spend a chunk of time talking, in real time, about whether or not we want our girls in the bathroom at the same as a transgender man which them morphs into a conversation around setting boundaries and the distinctions between trust and procedure. We have a recipe and J.R. says something dangerous. Just a normal convo around our digital table. Please join us!

Ep. 207: Tom Bombadil, Being vs. Doing, & The Power of Community

JR & Molly — Fri, 14 Nov 2025 13:01:35 GMT

Molly sent me (J.R.) an Instagram DM with a link to The Culturalist talking about Tom Bombadil in The Lord of The Rings and what it means to be able to resist evil. Molly applies it to being a homeschool mom while I have some work applications. We also touch on music and community and how it’s affecting our kids. Please join us around our digital table!

[Links in Show Notes]

Ep. 206: Parenting, Elk, & Everything We Do is Theological

JR & Molly — Fri, 07 Nov 2025 16:15:05 GMT

Been a busy couple of weeks. It’s hunting season and someone got a bull, we also harvested chickens for the first time so that was an adventure. All of which kicks off a conversation around phases of parenting and to what end do we parent? Molly also shares quite a bit of recipes, a few funny tales of of the kids while exploring how much love is in our house. Please join us around our digital table!

[links in show notes]

Ep. 205: DEI, Trust and Freedom in Christ

JR & Molly — Fri, 24 Oct 2025 11:03:00 GMT

You cannot control everything and most of the time can’t draw a straight light between decisions and consequences. This is focus of our discussion around pregnancy and child-rearing, DEI and why inhaling house fire smoke is so bad for you. Okay, maybe there isn’t a direct tie into that one but Molly did have a cup of coffee right before the show. Join us around our digital table!

Ep. 204: Dogs vs. Chickens, Paranormal Convos with Kids, & Actually Health Safe Spaces

JR & Molly — Fri, 17 Oct 2025 20:27:05 GMT

This week, JR talks a lot more about Skinwalkers (he’s reading a book) and talking with your kids about paranormal activity. Molly continues with challenges on homeschooling him and riffs off Preston Sprinkle the idea of safe spaces and what the Bible teaches. Join us around our virtual table!

Ep. 203: A Post-Religious Right, Biological Bewilderment, & Tips For A Lasting Marriage

JR & Molly — Fri, 10 Oct 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Intro: Broccoli in colder climates, garden updates
6:00: Post-religious right, post-Charlie Kirk right.
10:10: Boldness and the generational attraction.
14:17: Alisa Childers, Derek Webb and those that didn’t deconstruct.
19:07: Okay, one traumatizing youth group game.
21:28: Back to Childers and changing her ministry because of Charlie Kirk.
23:50: Picking up off last week’s end on 1 Timothy.
28:56: A true religion, Dave Rueben, and desires to be more into religion.
30:01: Is there a place for LGBT to worship in a church after they come to church before they’re convicted but after choosing to follow the Lord?
34:59: A real danger in optics and protecting kids for the good, true and beautiful.
38:27: A question that needs to be answered. Do you encourage a divorce or legal separation?
39:13: Biological bewilderment. And an example from recent African history.
43:00: Why the solution of multiple wives would not apply to today’s culture.
45:09: Going for walks and stockpiling quality time. John Gottman’s observations of couples (4 Horseman) and the primary indicator for whether a marriage will last.
50:00: Don’t just “date your wife.”
58:01: Show Close

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Ep. 202: Welcoming the LGBT Community to Church

JR & Molly — Fri, 03 Oct 2025 14:53:36 GMT

4:00: Life Update: enrolling our girls in the youth orchestra. Putting in the work for the future reward.
12:10: JR’s life update: going out on tour.
18:40: Background: What do you say to LGBT folks who know what the church stands for but feel drawn to the church anyway?
21:39: The Telegram chat discussion: grace and truth, what do you lead with?
23:34: JR’s answer.
26:30: Molly’s answer.
29:40: There is a different call for those that claim the name of Christ and those that don’t.
31:52: We are all under the conviction of sin.
33:23: It is a much bigger sacrifice and “dying to self” to exit a relationship.
35:06: Living with sexual integrity.
37:55: A time to move into an attitude of holy spirit conviction.
38:52: Leaning into personal stories of Butterfield, Hill Perry and others.
43:20: Church membership vows and appropriate boundaries in church.
45:15: 2 Tim. 1:7 - be fearless and speak truth with love and power. The book’s huge relevance in our cultural moment.
48:45: Show Close.

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